I just want to cut right to the point with this one. Have you ever heard the saying “Happy wife, happy life”? … Well, it’s not true, knowing Jesus is the only thing that can bring true happiness, but letting your wife know how much you love and adore her can certainly make life that much more enjoyable.
If you have not read my wife’s last post titled “Stop Taking Notes On His Mistakes”, then you need to go read it. It is something that we men can apply too. If any of you have kept track of mistakes that your wife has made then you need to stop. I never really kept track of the mistakes, I more so held on to the feelings it would cause when she would bring them up. Things like, “You’re not perfect either” or “Don’t forget to blame your self for this fight too”, just to name a few of them. Or maybe you fall under the category of the guy who feels like there is nothing wrong with your relationship for the most part, everything is good. If that’s the case, just because you feel that way does not mean your wife feels the same way, and she might just feel like there are a few things that could use some improvement. (Ouch… I know)
So, here is a challenge I want to throw at you……..
A few weeks ago, I watched a video interview of an elderly couple who had been married for 27 years or so. During their interview, the biggest thing that jumped out at me was that the husband wrote his wife a note every morning before leaving the house and continued to do so after he had retired, everyday for the entire time they were married. In fact I think he continued on until the day he died. I just kept thinking of how much he must have loved her to make it a point to write her a note every single day and all of the ways that simple act had impacted their marriage.
I want you to challenge you to take a chance and see what could happen in your own marriage. Take the next two weeks or if you want to really step it up take the next four weeks to show your wife a new side of you.
Write her a note every day, it could be in the morning or evening depending on your schedule. Talk to her about something remarkable she did very recently, or something coming up that you are looking forward to doing with her, thank her for everything she does for you and your family, or let her know all of the ways you love her even still, or use it as a way to tell her something amazing that you have noticed and love about her.
The whole point is to show you that your relationship can be more than you ever imagined. In two weeks of doing this, you will definitely start to see each other growing closer together. Like I said, if you want to step things up and really WOW her, go for the full four weeks or beyond. I have been doing it now for two weeks and it really is helping draw my wife and I closer together. Even if you really do feel like your relationship is good, try it and see what happens, you won’t be disappointed. The best of relationships will notice a change for the better.
In my previous posts, I have listed a few different things that you can Incorporate into this challenge that could really help ignite a new flame in your marriage. I want you to know that if you accept this challenge, I will extend the offer to walk beside you personally to help encourage you if the going gets rough or you need a little help.
Lets step up as men, and make an impact on marriage. Lets get back to that first love we had for our wives. The institution of marriage and family is falling by the wayside at an alarming rate, and I believe that we have the ability to turn things around. For ourselves, for the future of our children, for their children and so on down the line. Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God. Lets stop letting it seem like a burden and treating it as something disposable. We have the power to take back the things that are important to us. We have a God that is bigger than any trial we might be going through, even if your marriage seems to be at a point where it can’t be saved, God is still on His throne and He still has a plan… We just have to surrender control and let Him lead.
How many of you want to step up and take this head on? You can comment below, send me an email or hit me up on Facebook, I would love to hear how it goes for you and what sort of impact and change it makes in your marriage. I hope to see a lot of guys who are willing to take their relationship up a notch and take back the love they once shared with their wife before the chaos of life got in the way.
Please don’t hesitate to hit me up if you need me to stand with you in prayer for your relationship with God, your wife, your marriage or your family.
Be relentless in the pursuit of God & your wife!
See you guys later…. Adam